Still counting. :)

Third year. Still counting. :)

May this relationship lasts forever.

Want to wait for this day for next many decades of year, together with you.

We always have our ups and downs.

But I know and you know too. That we can never make a day good without talking to each other.

In you I seek, for I see many in you.

Love you. More and more. Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow.

God bless us. :)

God bless this relationship.

Love vs. Pleasing

Something that everyone should read and understand.

A reminder for myself too. :)

Love. The happiness in receiving love is not the same as getting approval from pleasing others.

Love. Don't please others in the name of love.

Because, pleasing people is not easy. 

Belief in yourself that you're loving one with your whole heart and that you're doing great at what you're doing. That would give you and your partner the utmost happiness.

Pleasing, Approval nor Expectation is going to break your heart or upset you the most. It is never gonna make you happy.

Love is the only thing that will last and make you smile forever.

An article that I read recently. Source:http://drkellyflanagan.com/2013/06/26/how-a-chocolate-chip-bagel-almost-ruined-my-marriage/?fb_source=pubv1

We should quit making it our ultimate priority to please our partners, because pleasing our partners and loving them are two entirely different things. Oftentimes, our efforts to please our partners leave us frustrated and hopeless and less likely to love.

When Approval is More Important Than Loving

And then the spouse waits, searching their partner for a reaction. Is she approving of what I’m doing? Will he affirm me for the progress I’m making? Am I saying all the right things?

When the spouse is not approving 'standard' of our love in terms of, not liking or approving the surprises and etc.

The spouse who, moments before, was stepping into the fullness of their capacity for love gets frustrated, gives up, clams up, and stops trying.

Love dies on the altar of our partners’ approval.

Not Perfect, But Beautiful

WHen a boy playing guitar search for approval—he made mistakes: he played the wrong note, made errors in fingering, or simply forgot what to play next.

When he began searching for affirmation, the music suffered.

So, his instructor told him to return to basics: keep your eyes on the music, don’t look up for affirmation, and simply play the song to the best of your ability.

The recital finally arrived. By the time he walked up to the front of the auditorium, he had memorized the music. But more importantly, approval was no longer important to him. He sat down and began.

And he played beautifully.

It wasn’t perfect. But he didn’t look up. He just played. It took courage. 

But even more importantly, it took determination—determination to play to the best of his ability and to trust he was good enough.

Songs!

Want to 'repair/ mend' your feelings?
Want to relax?
Want to feel the love?
Want to teleport to another place?
Want to convey your feelings but can't find the right words?
Want to just imagine stuffs?
Want to stay high?

I have a solution!

Listen to songs!
In love- Listen to love songs
Just broke up- Listen to sad songs
Feel demotivated- Listen to some advising songs
Feel want to wreck someone- Listen to some crazy songs
Want to break a bone- Listen to some fast songs

Whatever you want, songs can do that for you! Ahaks!

Want to get drugged.
Indian, Tamil 90's songs would be the best idea!
Nothing is more intoxicating than that.
The combination of the beats, music, the voice, humming and the lyric.
It will bring you wherever you want!
And make you feel all that you want!

That's the power of songs!
Proud to be an Indian.
Indians who creates the best musics ever!  :p
Indians who can never be defeated in expressing their feelings!
Hehehehe. *Enjoying such songs right now!*

The language of love.. :))

Beauty is the only human aspect which cannot be captured on any canvas howsoever hard an artist tries.

At the most, the undaunted artist can replicate the beauty on paper but what is a replica in comparison to the original! 

The humbling resemblance can only be respected, not truly adored. 

Beauty cannot be imprisoned in the lens of a camera. 

The images of beauty are a moment of its essence. 

Beauty cannot be displayed to evoke pleasure for all on a cinema screen. 

Those are just its imprints, mere illusions of its existence.

Beauty cannot be described by words; it cannot be written or read about. 

There are no suitable words in all the languages of the world, ancient or modern to hold it between a paper and a pen or a script and an eye. 

Beauty can only be experienced from far, its delightful aroma can only be tasted through one’s eyes and its pleasurable sight can only be felt from the soul.

Beauty can only be best described at its origin through a befuddling silence, the kind that leaves one almost on the verge of a pleasurable death, just because one chooses beauty over life. 

There is nothing in this world to hold something so pure, so divine except a loving heart. 

And it is the only manner through which love recognizes love;

Since,

The language of love has no alphabet, no words.

If..

Fights are really heart-breakers.
Making everything leaden.
Heart, soul, mind, days, thoughts and almost everything that one does.
If only after each fight,
I could keep calm and say nice things.
If only after each fight,
I could wake up forgetting what had happened,
If only after each fight,
I could only remember how much i have loved and treasured the relationship.
If only after each fight,
I could only think of the beautiful moments we had went through.
If only after each fight,
I could erase the grudges, anger and the bad thoughts.
If only I am able to do all of these.
I could always preserve the relationship that I love so much.
I miss being the old us.
I miss you.

Your Love is My Drug.

Your love is my drug,
It makes me to float
with legs still on the land,
It makes me high
with just the thoughts of you,
It makes me go speechless
with a glimpse of yourself,
It makes me to dream
with eyes still blinking,
It makes me to appreciate
for whoever I am.

Your love is my drug,
Its the Roxicet thatspoils me,
Its the Oxicodone I'm addicted to,
Its the Street Methadone that hurts me,
Its the Heroin that intoxicates me,
Its the Aspirin that I can't live without,
Its the Nasonex that keeps me going,
It poisons me with Love,
Yet it cures me too,
In the name of yours and your love.



Copyright.
NiLo.. =)

Adolescent Love VS. Young Adulthood Love

Hye people. today's topic. i was quite interested when i cam across the topic psycho-social development topic in Child Development today. it was all about emotions, attachments, sense of security and moral development.
so, where did this topic came from?
yea, its actually under Erik Erikson's  8 stages of psycho-social development.

i had modified a bit of the topic for nowadays love, relationships are common among primary school students or better if i term them as children.
so which one is better?
love at the age of 12-18 or love at 18-35?

love at adolescents.
*mainly because of the influence from the environment, mass medias and etc.
* because they want to try something new.
* they want to feel the love from others which they fail to receive from family.
* children are attracted to their peers who could make them happy most of the time.
*being bullied or forced to get into a relationship.

so is it puppy love, infatuation or real love?
there's no definite answer for it. ( i don't have it actually)

but, there are love that had begun at a very early age, which had proved to be true and sincere.
among the love which was famous was Laila and Majnu. if i'm not mistaken, they had fall in love at a very young age.

now, love at young adulthood.
at this age, people would have a clearer view on what they need and definite about the criteria's they look in their future partners.
so it means, this is more into reality.
and it may be because of infatuation, or even lust too.
people tend to fail in this too because,
they expect too much,
can't get along,
high level of ego,
feeling of superiority over one another,
lacking of understanding,
failing to keep to the promises, and etc..

thus,
love can occur at any time.
you don't have to be young nor old.
it comes, when it has to.
but one should be able to realize which one is love and which one is infatuation or etc.
then only they can build a relation like the romeo and juliet, like our grandpa and grandma, like dad and mom, like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, like Surya and Jyothika and etc.

so, its up to you which one to believe.. ^^
a little bit of something that i found from Mr. Google specially for you.. :)



"infatuation is transcendent; love in down to earth.

infatuation creates a fantasy; love accepts a reality.

infatuation is an addiction; love is a commitment.

infatuation craves unity; love cherishes separateness.

infatuation evades responsibility; love wholeheartedly accepts it.

infatuation is effortless; love is hard work.

which makes the transition hard."


good night people.. =)

how different can they be?

as the title goes..
what can be different..?
i mean like, not something that is different in few things.. but something that is totally different in almost everything..
let's see..
best friends..
they are like people who share almost everything.. have common ideas n etc..
but somewhere, sometime, sure there'll be a clash in ideas, opinions and thoughts.
how about couples..
some may say that, 'Oh, there's no such thing as different taste. he and I share everything. there's no differences in everything that we do.'
i don't really believe it when someone says it. Or perhaps I believe that, the couple had just got into relationship or never knew each other well.
this is because, man and woman are two different things.
If man was from mars then women are from Venus.
for instance,
guys might talk with all the vulgar words and etc. but the next day would behave like nothing happened. but other way around happens when a girl say something that is just rude to another girl.
the same thing goes with the way a girl thinks and a guy thinks..
usually a girl would think a lot before taking a decision. forecast the future perhaps.
but not guys. as long they can survive the day, then they have no worries.
this is not the only thing.. there's an endless list of the differences between a girl and a boy.

but this is not an excuse to fail a relationship.
all these differences are to teach us
 to understand each other..
 to compromise with each other..

 to be like a 'lock and key' or like a piece of puzzle..
where you be his strength in things that he's weak, and he'd be your strength in things that you're weak in..
and last but not least..

(1)to like the differences (better if i say, respect because, there's no way for me to like guys certain hairstyles especially the long hair! so respect it be..) hehe..
(2) to love each other despite the differences.. ^^

15th of September~

hye people... :)) sehat??
weird ah blog masa kelas.. hehe.. actually dah habis kelas dah.. had only 1 class today.. diz is y i heart TESL4!! haha.. slalu x der kelas.. hehe..

so about today... its a special day for me and my special one.. hehe..
its our 1st anniversary... <3

a foreign feeling lorr.. mayb cz 1st time celebrating 'anniversary'.. but x really celebrate larr.. sebab.. my saranghae jauh nun di selatan while im up at the east here.. huhu.. so.. v wished each other.. den chit chat before going to sleep.. that also after dipaksa kerana ada kelas hari ini.. hehehe..
About us.. we knew each other when we were in form 5.. i actually knew that a person of that name existed through my bestie when i was in form 4.. but form 5 nie met lorr..

den.. became friends.. it was not so easy for us to commit in the relationship.. it took a long historical time.. haha.. praise his patience... for waiting for me..
that's what i like abt him so much.. hehehe.. if he did't wait we wouldn't have celebrated this day, today..

we are totally opposite of each other.. whatever i love, he hates it so much.. n vice versa too.. but x how we could still stay together through thick and thin.. this is what they call destiny or fate maybe.. haha..
we may not be the most perfect loving couple.. but we do understand each other..
we fight.. but never forget to love each other.. hehehe.. jiwang sungguh..

~<3 <3~
our story started year ago..
but the love stil continues.. and will always continue.. 

i just wish that we would stay strong together,.. so that we can celebrate this day in the coming years together.. :)

unakkul vanthu ethana naal aachu..

ninapula daane vaazhuthu en moochu..

namma suthi kadhal kiraganam vantachu..
unathu mugavariyil en peyarai serthuvitten..
naanum idam maara naal onrai paarthuvitten..

ini unnai marapatharkku ennalum mudiyathu..viral pidithu nadanthuvitten.. ini pirivum irukathu..

Happy Anniversary _____.. *blushing*
me heart u so much!!